No, nobody’s distress.
Just loving the title.
I intend to write something wee bit serious today. Just had this idea entangled at the back of my mind and it bogged me so much, I would be doomed if I don’t let it out.
But no worries, I guarantee ya no (mental) injuries will be bourne by anybody during this writing process.
SO, I spent my NY hol watching Lipstick Jungle (again, not gonna review, cliche). For those who don’t watch, there’s a character in there (Nico) who had an affair with a guy way younger than her age. Nico’s married, but somehow she couldn’t help herself from jumping onboard the infidelity bandwagon with the guy. The Kirby guy, he’s so hot he would easily toast a bread on his body.
But that’s besides the point 😉
I was mesmerized by the love and affection being portrayed by Nico and her toyboy in that series. Granted, it was a forbidden love, but I just was enthralled by how deep a relationship that was only begin by physical could turned into. And I can see that there’s more to them than the s*x, it’s called LOVE. Oh yeah, and passion.
I didn’t blame Nico though, coz I can so much relate. She’s just unhappy being with his husband. Or maybe overally she is, but she didn’t get that ONE thing Kirby gave her. I’ve dealt with all sorts of disloyalty since I was a little kid and throughout my love-life. Too bad, I just don’t have the guts to leave what I have and start anew. And I believe many people think this subject is taboo, and by doing that you could be considered as the baddie. But heck? This is your life or theirs?
I hate to be the victim of an unfaithful relationship, so to speak, but I figured, why stay in a relationship that doesn’t make you happy? I may be bold, God forbid I ever become the one who walk out of a relationship (never set a record so far, except when I was in Form 5 – but that doesn’t count, I’m still in school uniform!), but I think it just comes back to the question; who makes you happy?
You should be with the one that makes you happy. Period. Be how forbidden it is.
They say the forbidden fruit tastes the sweetest. And I couldn’t agree more. I have living proof of friends around me that play the bad-girl card and leave their partner with a sole reason “I’m not happy anymore being with him“, and I would be lying if I say I’m not grateful seeing them happy now leading their lives with the “third guy”. And I can see the smiles that were carved on their faces, holding the “happy” trophy and all that they said was “It was worth it”.
But don’t get me wrong, this is not a post to encourage infidelity. For those that are happy and contented with what they have, go on. This message is just for those that stucked IN an unhappy relationship and thinking of exiting. Just do it. Coz I’d rather seeing you be the initiator than being the poor victim. I so know coz I so wish I did.
But now, I don’t call myself a victim anymore. I called myself a martyr. Though it’s bitter to chew, but I have to admit the fact that I couldn’t make my last partner happy, and he gets it from someone else. I spare him from a lifetime misery of being stucked with me, that’s the sacrifice I didn’t realize at first. So, why not? At this point I should be proud of myself aight?
Lastly, just live your life to the fullest peeps! 😉