Yes, it’s time for the relationship pep-talk again. Do cover your ears or take heed if you’re interested.
Every morning, while I’m driving to work, I always like to glance at passengers in the car behind or besides me through my tinted windscreen sunglasses. I find them fascinating to look at or even to diagnose. Guess why?
Out of 10 cars that I sneakpeeked, only 2 couples inside it that are talking, but only 1 that actually laughing. Yes, I do understand sometimes people don’t get all chirpy in the morning, it may not be the best time – not all of us are morning people. But if it’s not, then when is?
The most common scenario that I looked at would be: the guy is driving and the lady is either sleeping, texting, or even just keeping mum. No communication whatsoever throughout the 1-hour journey. If there is ever slight communication, it would just be arguments and neck-breaking between each other. Beyond doubt, I can guarantee you that these people have been married for more than 3 years (yeah, they look kind old to me). Who am I to judge, but I think it’s embedded in our culture that marriage is a routine, not a fun thing to do. It could be fun, for the first 3 years or so but soon it just turn out to be your biggest nightmare. Or so you think.
Why do people enter into a marriage? (I may be sue by tok kadi of these, but heck?) There are many reasons to it: Out of love, security, lust, it’s the time, urge from parents, you’re comfortable with that person, peer pressure, age factor or merely you just follow your hunch.
I have no opposition towards marriage whatsoever, but I think most people these days got married for the wrongest reasons. Go figure. I don’t need to feed you with my idea of wrong reasons, let alone to talk you out of it.
Finally, a quote from a born-breed Malaysian artist who make it big in the HollyW scene: You don’t need to have a partner to make you feel whole or happy. You yourself have to be whole and happy first. He/she just have to ADD to the wholeness/happiness .
I think that is the most brilliant reason for one to get married, the other half should add to the happiness. Not the other way around.
Ps: Have I managed to convert you yet? Kidding.