I was, well, among other things, a telephone operator, a shrink, a chaffeur and a friend yesterday.
I was in Ipoh yesterday evening. Pushed off from KL at 3pm, made a quick way north, arrived home at 2am and straight went to bed. No, I was there not to serang anybody’s ex fiance (heh) or anybody’s wife to be (heh again). I was there for family matter, sent my mengada-ngada spoilt elder brother for his studies after a long semester break. Before, I was in the office and let me tell you, the whole morning I was busy doing my last? second last? far from last work given by my boss. And I realized how badly I’m gonna missed all of this after Thursday. huhu.. 
Ok, enough about me.. Who’s ready for an X story? (yes, I saw few hands raised), so here goes:
Earlier yesterday morning I got a call from one of R*d’s sibling, bitching venting out how mad she was at his brother. I was on the other line, listening and it kept me thinking real deep. She said that R*d has become somebody she barely knows. The wedding is one month away but all he did was going to and fro Tg*nu-Ip*h every other weekend. He has been a royal pain in the as* throughout this wedding prep and worst of all, he didn’t even care about the reception on his side, but more on the reception on the girl’s side. I was totally overwhelmed and shocked. This is totally not the R*d I used to know. Yes, I was mad at him for God-knows-certain things (baru je few days lepas die sibuk2 tanya bila nak tukar nama kereta. Duh? When I have the money la.. ) but never ever I hate him for everything he did to me. The sister also vented out how R*d has neglected his whole family and focused only on the girl. Oh gosh, that is sooo not the R*d I used to know. He never ever never put family first! I was even the fourth (maybe fifth?) in his priority list while we were dating. If there’s one thing I am certain about him, is that family means everything to him. Worst of all, I found out that the fiancee has been viewing my FS profile using his account! Duh. what such loser?
Note to the fiancee who knows it all: I understand some girls get pretty jealous of their boyfriend/fiance’s whereabout. But this? You have been checking up on me from time to time and even ask your fiance to scold his sister for befriended me? This is called pathetic insecurity, dear. I just don’t understand why you have to be this insecure, of all people, on me? He dumped me to be with you, don’t you see? He’s all yours. I swear I won’t even peek. I wanted to thank you even, for stealing taking him away from me, or else I’ll be blinded in this triangle forever. Thank you for opened up my eyes, coz I know I deserve much2 better. Prior to this, I never believe that everything that happened have the blessing in disguise, but now I know..Things that we don’t see, not necessarily weren’t there..
But tell me something I don’t understand. If you claimed that you really love him, how could you deprive him from joy with his family and drive him towards bitterness instead? Naahh.. who am I to judge one’s relationship kan? But I just felt a bit overwhelmed coz from the story the sister told me, he definitely NOT the R*d I used to know…
Okay, okay, on a lighter note:
1. Got a call from Jr, R*d’s bandmate whom I still befriended till today (just don’t believe that friends can break-ups, I know couples do..)
Him: Hey bit*h!
Me: Hey back, bit*h!
Him: I heard he’s getting married?
Me: Hehe.. that was yesterday’s news la dude!
Him: Let’s crash! I know the wifey would turn Hulk when see you there!
Me: Hehe…Let’s!
2. An acquaintance from the past texted after 2 years of silence. And after updating each other’s with each whereabouts, he (I don’t know?jokingly?) said that he had been waiting for me all these years and just gonna masuk meminang soon. I was like, yeah right? Don’t even say things that you don’t even mean (heart’s a fragile little thing, you know) and even if it was not a joke, I don’t even know you inside out, brother! Don’t believe love could last start without that spark, tingling, karan sensation.
3. My cousin MMSed me a picture of her and a guy last night:
Her: Hensem tak mamat ni?
Me: Your new bf izzit? Bolehlaa… But not my type..
Her: Teruk betulla Kak Nee ni.. Orang nak kenalkan dengan dia. Awal2 lagi dah kene reject!
Me: Hehe..Okay okay.. Shoot! 
I soooo can relate with people that are too rigid in his/her choices of partners. Trust me, I know, coz I also (terribly) did. Heh.
Do knock my doors, people. I won’t stop you. But don’t blame me if I don’t open the door, coz I’ve lost the key somewhere. Might take a while before I find it again and let you in… But, please… don’t hold your breath…
i wonder la apa fiance R*d tu pikir.
why she shud be worry? i cant find any reason that valid.jealous dia dah jd mcm nak control.hati org, perasaan org bukannya boleh dipaksa.even if u control everything around him pun doesnt mean it cannot change his feeling.
am no position to judge. but from the stories i heard, it was pretty awful.
maybe he loves too much, sume ckp pun ikut je.
but weird la. he never let anybody (especially gf) cloud his judgement especially when it comes to family matters. the R*d I know always let family first, regardless what-ribut taufan angin kencang-not.
ps: mati aku kalau die tau aku ngumpat die kt sini. heh.
heard almost the same story somewhere..
a girl’s ex juz acts differently from what he used to be when he’s with the new girl..
well, ppl changes..
so eventho we thot we know somebody..we finally wont really know abt him..
or maybe it’s his true colors after all..
haah la syeda,ingat lagi ko cite pasal kakak dia
meh aku tmbh syeda..
tunang aku buat mcmth,aku xpyh suruh pun..dh hati dier nk ikut aku,maybe aku jer yg phm dier..aku xreti nk pakse2,ngamuk2,mrajuk2 mcm ko wat dulu..fyi,kami xpnah gaduh teruk2 mcm korg,so nmpk la kn cner aku lyn dier smpi dier nk kahwin ngn aku kn..sori la selit skit..xpyh nk burukkn tunang aku,time nk kalut preparation nih sumer pn jdk xpueh ati..tmasuk adek beradek,mak bapak..tp xder plak leh nk ngadu kt org luar..sdgkn org yg nk dilangsungkn pn dh ckup kusut..xpyhla nk tmbh2..
kalo rs nk dtg kenduri,jemputla dtg..xpyh segan2..iktla akak tunang aku skali..insyaAllah diberi layanan istimewa..ikhlas nih..
anyway,lenkali kalo dgr mslh umahtangga org dr 1 pihak,jgn trus judge..kiter diberi amanat simpan rahsia,bkn memburuk2 kn org lain,memecahbelahkn org lain..even ni blog ko,ko bajet org xtau ko kutuk sape,mengate sape..even antara korg xsetel lg hal name kete th,aku tau n aku stil sabo..kalo ko agak2nye,sabo x??pikirla sendiri..ko pnah rs terabai kn when dier xpduli ko,n lebihkn akak dier..cmth la keadaan nye skang,bezanye skang dier yg nk sentiasa ngn aku n akak dier terasa…so mesti ko phm..even akak dier pn xtau cter sbenar psl kami,then ckp la aku yg paksa dier..hm nape la aku xplain kt ko ekh.rsnyer xperlu kot..maybe nk bg ko tau jer..
hmmm.. it was utterly surprising that apparently my blog wasn’t only being read by FRIENDS. i appreciate the enthusiasm though, don’t know that amidst the “busyness” and “hecticness” of the wedding prep you still have the time to check my FS and my blog, what? twice, thrice a day? *seemed stalkerish to me*
in case anybody hasn’t notice, a personal blog is meant to vent out personal thoughts and feelings
too bad if anybody felt that his or her feelings are being hurt by whatever written by the author of the blog.
but really, I’m not gonna start a ‘catfight’ here. it’s like sinking myself to the low. and you know where your position is, coz I can totally see you from up here
in case you don’t understand the words that are written up there: Naahh.. who am I to judge one’s relationship kan? —> maksudnya dalam BM ialah “siapalah saya untuk menghakimi sesebuah hubungan”. It’s clearly stated above that I’ve never judge so .. there’s really no need for an insult on what me and him had before nor there’s a need for you to blow your own horn on how good you takes care of him until he really wants to marry you.
I’m sure you did.
As I’ve said earlier, he’s all yours.. Naah.. it has been established long time ago that how much I realized I don’t want him. All thanks to you. Have I thank you enough?
So, tell me again, what’s your problem dropping by here?
Rapunzel! Rapunzel! let go of your long hair and ill climb up your tower.
not all entry must be from the door. think bout it.
u know what,
nothing is certain in this life.we can planned and assure it’s gonna happen soon, but even how perfect we have planned our life,nutting can beats qada’ and qadar.that’s the lesson i learn recently..u shud think abt it too.
and another thing, when u r married to a man it means u r married to his whole family.if ur man seems to weighed u more than his family, it’s ur duty to remind him.after all his responsibility to his family won’t change even if he’s married, different like us, the women.
btw..it’s jut my 2 cents.
no wonder that “psycho” gurl “speedtrap” u every min. of ur life dude!..what a jerk, hah!! cannot imagine how STUPID that gurl is…i thought she’s well “trained” by ur lovely x-bf about “good behavior” with people surrounding, but eventually HE FAIL to do so…SO SAD…POOR MR R*d…
To Mr R*d, happy wedding day…do hope that u dont regret after marry her as i can see she’s not really really concern about u…she just concern about herself ONLY- “Over Protected”-Britney says, not me… Nway, I love my friend and she is the best ever friend of mine…
oh and FYI (I sooo love it! this is so Desperate Housewives-you watch?, this is not how things are being done around here..The way we do things around here (by we I mean WE pretty, intelligent, well-mannered ladies), we don’t go rampage on somebody if we have an arising dispute. We ask politely, do things calmly, brilliantly and strategize our game plans wisely. Naahh.. what do you know? Or else you and I might have ended up GOODFRIENDS long time ago..
Oh, and btw, thanks for that I’m-pretty-sure-it-was-an-ikhlas invite. Arghh!.. now I feel bad I couldn’t make it. I have somthing MAJOR going on your W-day.
Btw, when is the date, again?
(This is called sarcasm in case you’re too blur to notice it)
Cheers!
I couldn’t agree more, dear…heh…
P/S: R*d…any comments?
This is so funny, I never realize that a well educated person couldn’t understand the post written by Syeda.
Oh please Mapo, think before you write something. It’s an honest opinion and no names were mentioned in the text. For you to post back a reply as a defensive statement is alright. Yet…in such a manner…hahaha…be civilize please.
And I got to agree with Azya quote
” when u r married to a man it means u r married to his whole family.if ur man seems to weighed u more than his family, it’s ur duty to remind him”.
Hello?? You know what is “mengikat sillaturrahim” right. Be realize of what is your religion and respective race.
There is an old folk saying “a marriage that is not blessed ends up disastarous”. Owh believe me, i’ve seen a lot.
So at the end of the day, please don’t be a “monyet” and I’m not referring to the smart ones.
Truth hurts..ouch!
Assalamualaikum w.b.t to all
With all do respect I know this blog belong to somebody i know once, i hope u all be clarified bout what I’m going to say here.
First of all, let me put this in simple way. i just wanna say that please read it & think with a peaceful mind & judge it wisely.
1. i never ever turn my back from my family. does my sis story/gossip in fact she’s being jealous with me can easily put everybody to judge me this way? u also once been in this situation. can u tell others bout that? plz think bout it. its a family matter, so plz respect ours as I’ll respect yours. i’m sure nobody like when we talk cock bout their family. i know yours.
as what she told u, im going to & fro KT-ipoh every week, did I? does she really know or at least care to know where i’ve been? is it the truth u heard? or the truth u know? give me some proof then.
what else did she told u? tell me all, i would love to hear it & laugh.
2. nobody ever ‘touch’ your FS profile with my account if it wasn’t me myself. the fact is that it was me who accidentally click ur name just to know whoever viewed mine since i didn’t recognized the name. just dont misjudge others & exaggerate the story.
3. the thing about the car, it was asked by my parents, so is it wrong if i just ask u back? If u got some problem, plz talk to them directly if u will, can u? they more concern bout it now. see how they care? am i really put my family behind?
4. well, is it true that i was ‘break-up’ with my friends? actually i never forget them, we still in touch even now. so what’s truth ????
5. is it true that i’ve scold my sis to not befriended u? is it the truth? U heard them? Did u know how it sound like? do u know me that well? hmm
well, after all i’ve been through here & then i know my judgement never fails me,& nobody ever come in front until now. i’m still the same like before. to anybody who want to talk about religous here, i think it would be nice if we could met & for muzakarah or taklim sometimes
lastly, I just wanna say that plz plz plz plz don’t misjudge others coz it will lead to defamation that destroy others. Just believe on the truth not by mouth. In fact I know what kind of person u really are, ur family & everything. It’s a sin if u spoil others life even i had enuff by this. I do prefer a good relationship between all people but not like this. We are all muslim so plz think like 1.
If any of u who had some misunderstanding problem plz feel free to contact me at anytime, I’ll sure entertain u guys Insya Allah. U got my number. Before I forgot, u all are invited to my wedding
You guys can check out the card here.
http://picasaweb.google.com/reidz1910/MyWeddingCard
Thank you.
Assalamualaikum w.b.t
“I just wanna say that plz plz plz plz don’t misjudge others coz it will lead to defamation that destroy others.” i like this quote.
bahaya nyer kemajuan technology skrg.. never knew which one is real, which isnt.. tatau nk ckap per coz xle nk cnfm who the author really isz.. nasihat : abaikan jer coz he’s no longer anyone important 2 u rite nw.. aite..? as 4 t car..saper yg byr bulan2? if die byar beter tkar name cpt2 so xpyhla u lyn dorang g..huahua.. jgn marah yek..nk catfight i ader tau…hehe..t.care